The people I appreciated the
most after losing David were the ones who simply were present when I needed them.It is the people who did not
try to enter into my feelings and did not offer me false comfort or false solutions
that I appreciated the most. They did not tell me that I need to take something
to feel better. They did not tell me that I need to see a therapist. They did
not tell me that I need to have more faith. They did not tell me that I need to
read my Bible more. They did not tell me that they feel my pain. They did not
tell me that life goes on. They did not tell me to be thankful that I had David
for 30 years. They did not tell me to be thankful for the memories. They did
not tell me that he is in a better place. They did not tell me that it is the
will of God. They did not tell me that I am strong. They did not tell me that I
should not live in the past. They did not ask me if I had other children. They
did not ask me how he died. These are the people who did not invade my privacy. They stood at the sidelines respecting me and my journey through the path of
grief and sorrow. They encouraged me just by listening to me or giving me a
hug, knowing full well that they were as powerless as I was.
