Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Be Still

After David died, I heard the hymn; “Be Still and Know that I am God” This statement appears as a verse in Psalm 46:10.

How can I be still when my flesh and blood is in the grave? How can I be still when I lost my most precious gift? How can I be still when part of me died? How can I be still when nothing makes sense? How can I be still when my will is broken? How can I be still when I feel the way I do? How can I be still when I am tormented? How can I be still when my whole being is shook? How can I be still when everything around me has changed? I am in a state of flux. I am in a state of change. Everything changed when my son died. The whole world is no longer the same. I am not the same. I will never be the same. The way I think is different. The way I respond to people is different. I just pray that the good that is promised from this entire calamity will surface soon as I cannot take it anymore. The suffering due to this loss is unimaginable and even indescribable. The pain that grips my soul is mixed with fear and despair.
I feel breathless at times.

Monday, March 12, 2018

As Time goes by

As time rolls by, I continue to experience sorrow and despair at times. I continue to cry over my son. It is a daily ritual. However, I admit that intervals of pain are much shorter and less frequent. I learned to live again rather than just to exist. I learned to appreciate every breath that I take. I learned to see beauty in everything. I learned to care for others. I learned to live in the present and not the past or the future. 

Saturday, February 17, 2018

The Pain of Losing a Child

After the recent school shooting, I began to feel for the parents who lost their children in this senseless act. I know that they are going to experience severe pain. When I lost my son I began and still experience pain like no other pain that I have experienced before. I cannot describe the pain. It cannot be expressed in the language that we speak. This is an attempt to try to describe it.

The pain is like thrusting a dagger in my heart over and over again. Every impulse in me shrieks with outrage at the loss. My spirit is broken. The sensation of pain is perpetual. It smarts, pierces and does not go away.

My heart pleads for one more glance at his face and one more of his unforgettable hugs. The load of inward affliction does not disappear with prayer. I even wrestle with God all the time. The pain is sharp and lasting. It is a ceaseless strenuous struggle of pain. I am struck down and knocked down by the pain. There is a heavy veil of darkness around me. I am worn out with mental conflict and feel stifled and oppressed at times. There is such a hurt in me. The wound is too wide and deep and keeps opening up. The pain is beyond all thought and leaves me tired and exhausted.

It is difficult to bear this heavy crushing pain. Time taunts me with my loss. My soul is desolate. The torment stops every now and then, then it begins again with fiercer and more excruciating pain. Tears have burned out my eyes.

Those who have not been there have no concept. We who have been there cannot fully tell of our experiences as the pain and sorrow is unspeakable. We cannot avoid the pain if we love, even if we love a little.