Early on in my grief the pain was so severe and the sorrow was relentless. To continue hurting did not make sense. I wanted to ease the pain. This is what I said to myself: I can tuck David in my heart and talk to him as if he is with me. I can tell him all my secrets and no one else will know about them. We can still be together as long as I am alive. I will continue to talk about him to others and will keep him alive. I will let others know him through me. Try it, it helps.