Grief Happens

Grief happens. You do not plan to cry or not to cry. The soul gets overwhelmed and then the tears flow like rivers of water. There is no expectation, only subtle vibes that fill the soul with memories and lead to crying. The pain is associated with the tears and the longing and missing are beyond description. The loss is massive and most people lose compassion as time rolls by. Time does not change what happened and the loss is permanent. Please do not minimize the loss because the loss occurred years ago. In fact when you do that you generate a secondary loss as bereaved parents are intimidated and do not feel free and open to mention their departed loved ones names as if they never existed.