Comfort

After losing David many tried to comfort me.

When I speak to some about my loss, they tell me that they just read in the paper that a young person was just killed in a car accident or that some young person died due to cancer or drugs. Some people try to comfort me by telling me that they know a woman who lost two children or that a woman lost her only child. Others tell me that he is in a better place and that it is the will of God. Many have told me that this is life and others have it worse than me. No matter what I do or think or analyze grief follows me and tears have not ceased and the pain persists. I am now being told that I am stuck in my grief. Don’t they know that as long as I live I will mourn my son? I know who I am and when I continue to experience profound sadness that no one else can feel, why should I always be questioned about my feelings? 

Jacob refused to be comforted

When Jacob was given his son’s coat of many colors dipped in blood he realized that Joseph must have been devoured by an evil beast. In Genesis 37:34-35 we read that he tore his clothes and mourned for his son. All his sons and all his daughters rose up to comfort him; but he refused to be comforted; and he said: “For I will go down into the grave unto my son mourning”. Thus his father wept for him. What I glean from this is that any parent who loses a child will forever mourn that child until the day that the parent joins the child in death. Then why is it that society wants us to quit mourning our children and to “move on” as if the catastrophe of losing our children is to diminish with time? 

https://www.amazon.com/Topics-Grief-woman-who-lost/dp/1480224898/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1460397653&sr=8-1&keywords=topics+in+grief